My son’s funeral

We waited 6 weeks to have our son’s funeral. This was in part that we wanted it planned to perfection, and a big part was that I didn’t want to have to say the final goodbye. I wanted him on earth as long as I could. I am glad we waited though, I was at a place in time where I could focus completely on his funeral and have a clear enough mind to be meticulous with speeches, the proceedings, songs and tributes we wanted our son to have.

Our funeral directors (Simplicity Funerals NT), were absolutely AMAZING. They let us do everything we wanted. Our son joined us in our family car for his ‘last ride’ to his nanny’s house before heading back to our house where we brought him inside and got to experience him here with us, and finally to his nanny and grandad’s house before heading to the chapel. We went all out, we had his family from Dennis’ side traditional dance for him, we had multiple slideshows of him, songs, speeches from myself, his dad, his grandparents and 2 close friends. Over 300 people attended our son’s funeral, this blew me away. I felt so much comfort that my son was so loved before he even got a chance to walk this earth. I will forever be grateful for each single person who came to wish my baby boy a farewell.

We had the service filmed so our family in different states could watch it, and so we could always look back at that day and remember. If I could provide any advice, I would say wait until you’re ready to plan the funeral, don’t rush it if you don’t want to. Sit down with your partner or family and discuss all options, wishes and desires for the service and find a funeral company that will allow you do to what you want (within reason). I chose to do a speech at my son’s funeral. I didn’t know if I’d be able to but I wanted to make him proud, I wanted to let everyone there know how much I adored my baby boy. He is my son and my son deserved his mother getting up and speaking about him. I didn’t want ‘not speaking’ to become a regret in the future. Dennis and I had said that from the beginning ‘no regrets’ for his special day.

I will blog about how I felt on the day of the funeral in the near future. Trying to articulate how I really felt/feel takes a lot of inner strength, and I need to be in a ‘good’ mind frame in order to go back to particular days or events without the emotions overwhelming me for the day.